D February 6th, 2009
The central question that I repeatedly come to in my internal debate of the gay marriage issue is this:
Under whose authority?
My frame of reference is Alberta, Canada so I’ll frame my arguments from that context. However, I believe these arguments apply globally.
Here we go:
First, if I wanted to marry people (in my province), how would I go about doing that? (http://www.servicealberta.gov.ab.ca/542.cfm)
I have two options:
- Civic marriage officiant
- Clergy member from a regionally registered group. The government of Alberta “registers religious organizations and clergy who perform marriages”
Okay, so how do i become a marriage officiant?
I apply. (http://www.servicealberta.gov.ab.ca/1152.cfm)
I include:
- A cover letter of introduction explaining the interest in the appointments and what the applicant has to offer the position
- A personal resume
- A letter outlining the facilities the applicant has available to be used to perform weddings, conduct interviews, etc.
Well, that was easy.
And how do I become a clergy member?
Fulfill requirements of [insert religious brand here].
When I am complete, and if my religious organization is registered with the province of Alberta – I’m set to start marrying.
So if I am a clergy member under [religious brand x], and I am going to marry someone how do I go about that?
- A ceremony, generally one that follows the traditions of [religious brand x]
- Paperwork for the government of Alberta
Okay, so I have a [religious brand x]-approved ceremony, and I’ve married these two people.
Now under whose authority have I married them?
So we have three areas of authority. The [brand x] minister has legally married the couple in the eyes of Alberta as [brand x] is registered with the government. He is also considered a minister in the [brand x] organization, and they have qualified him as ‘able to marry’, so their marriage has been authorized by [brand x].
Where does [brand x] get the authority to marry from?
The clergy member’s faith and understanding of God gives him the belief that when he prays and tells God that these two are being married, that God looks down and says, “yup, so they are”… then they go have sex and it’s a done deal.
Now what’s the difference between someone who went to the Government of Alberta to get married versus someone who went to [brand x]?
So they are only married in the eyes of the government, but not under God. The government, and most commonly the officiant, don’t have the ‘spiritual authority’ to marry under God.
So:
Why are Christians so worried about gay marriage? Sure it doesn’t fit with the traditional view of scripture, but our government performing gay marriages doesn’t threaten Christian personal beliefs. And the point of a society where church and state are separated is to allow the flexibility of multiple opinions, so that everyone can ‘get along’.
Here are two possible simple solutions to this
- The government stops performing ‘marriages’ and only facilitates legal civil-unions for both hetero and homosexual couples. Religious [brand x] can call the union whatever they want (eg – Marriage).
OR – a better option:
- Christians give up lobbying governments over the dictionary definition of ‘marriage’. The formal word used to describe a sexual relationship makes very little difference to God – it is our actions that are truly meaningful. The word is merely a cultural marker upon which some Christians are trying to wage a cultural war – and in the process disenfranchise several generations of homosexual people who tune out any mention of Christ.
Ultimately God is the one who decides what is moral/immoral appropriate/inappropriate. And every human’s responsibility is to get as close to God as possible, and make decisions based on that closeness. Some people are gay, and some of that group are in gay sexual relationships. That’s not going to change.
And if Christians want to have any sort of dialog with individuals who happen to be gay, it might be better if we were not their oppressors.